Are You an Asshole?

We are all creatures of habit.

TV even immortalises the creature of habit in The Big Bang Theory’s Sheldon Cooper – who has placed his spot in the house in an “eternal state of dibs”, has to have his Chinese takeout just so, complete with the good soy sauce from the Korean supermarket, has day-specific breakfast foods, and of course rigidly performs his ablutions at the same time every morning.

And while we are discussing morning routines, the sages of old have advised that by setting the correct intention at the start of your day, you are able plot its outcome – a Chinese saying goes 一日之計在於晨.

Louise Hay advocates mirror work – where you tell yourself, your reflection, “I love you”, “You are beautiful”, “Have a wonderful day, you deserve it” to remind yourself that, yes, you truly deserve to have a wonderful day, today – indeed, everyday, if you so choose.

In an episode of the CBS sitcom Mom, Christy (played by Anna Faris), the Mom in Mom, was having a particularly shitty day – all day long, nothing would go her way and everyone she encountered were assholes. To top it off, she had to attend an AA meeting with her mom. ‘Nuff said.

Marjorie (played by Mimi Kennedy), her friend and fellow AA partner, suggested that the reason she was meeting assholes all day long was because she was acting like one herself. Later, to her surprise, Christy realises Marjorie has a point.

Alas, I have no empirical proof that beaming like a ray of sunshine would ensure that you meet similarly happy people. But Mother Teresa did say,

“We shall never know all the good that a simple smile can do.”

If art really does imitate life, I wonder if we don’t deserve to make a habit of being compassionate to ourselves, and perhaps, just perhaps, the world would become a better place.




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